Modernize build system and add Windows ARM64 wheel support #97

Job	Run time
Build wheel ubuntu-24.04-arm (aarch64)	7m 22s
Build wheel windows-latest (ARM64)	6m 7s
Build wheel windows-latest (auto64)	7m 36s
Build wheel macos-latest (universal2)	6m 45s
Build wheel macos-13 (auto64)	1s
Build wheel ubuntu-latest (auto64)	7m 43s
deploy	-1s
	35m 33s

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